In a previous article we discussed that there are some things that we can’t outsource, that we have to do the work for. This includes going to the gym, eating well, and focusing on family. There are some steps that we can take to get started. To build the habit. If we want to be healthy, we have to do the work.
This is only the start.
We do these things because we have decided that they are important to us. At some point then, we need to show our work.
Why? Because it helps us see how we are progressing. It shows that we are putting our time where we say we will. It keeps us accountable. In fact, if you are doing these things, you will have something to show. Not that this means we are shouting or declaring our achievements to the world. Or demanding attention. That’s narcissistic. Rather, it’s a passive process where we, and others, naturally see our work because of the person we have become. It’s like having a +2 ring of strength. It’s always activated and the extra strength is now just a part of life (unless of course, someone is out there with a scroll of magic nullification).
What does it look like to show your work?
Well, that will depend on what we have been working on. If we have decided that the gym is important and we have put in the work, we’ll naturally be able to show the outcome. You’ll look slimmer and more muscular. If you have decided eating well is important, the same applies. Family important? Awesome! You’ll have more time with them and be have built some strong connections. Your calendar can be a great indicator of this, meaning you have actually spent time with them.
If we are putting in the work, the outcome naturally shows itself. We look better. Feel better. Our family is closer. We are better.
Okay, so what about the less obvious things? Stoked on coffee as a hobby? You’ll have ideas to show. Espressos brewed. Flat White’s served. You can share that passion with yourself and others. That doesn’t mean you have to come up with the perfect brew. But you are doing something. Even if you aren’t brewing yourself, you have new knowledge that you can share. Insights developed. You’ve done the work and you can show it.
This is different to not doing anything. Because we very quickly have nothing to show. Been talking about getting fitter for months? Well, if you had started, there would be something to show. Been talking about learning more about coffee? Okay, you might not be brewing anything, but you will at least be able to share some facts and stories if you had started.
It’s not just the observable. It’s not about muscle size, or taste of a coffee. Changes to our values and behaviours come through too.
So if something is important to you, show me.
What are you working on? Let me know.